Unrelated Thoughts

Poems that are not in The End of the Word as We Know It, by Wes Unruh

what about the birth father?

here’s the situation,

The birth mother, realizing she’s pregnant, leaves her boyfriend
(the birth father) without telling him she’s pregnant

Two days before she gives birth, she contacts him out of the blue
and informs him she’s about to have a child and will be giving the
child up for adoption, then hangs up on him

You can assume she’s lied and told the adoption agency that she
doesn’t know where the father is or who the father might be,
and is unwilling to help them find him, and the only reason she
contacted him was in some sense because she’d felt guilty
about going behind his back.

At what point are his parental rights terminated?

If he could figure out where this adoption was being
finalized, could he stop the process?

Let’s say this happens in Kansas, where there is no putative
father registry – what can he do?

(This is all purely hypothetical, I’m trying to illustrate the gap between
what adoption.com presents as adoption and the circumstances that
lead to adoption in the real world.)


2 responses to “what about the birth father?

  1. Gershom December, 2007 at 6:07 am

    Only because my mother provided a name and contact information was my father tracked down and taken to court to surrender his rights. He denied he was my father and dodged them for 6 months landing me in foster care for that time from 3 days old. Eventually he was forced to court and acknowledged his responsibility to the point of being able to surrender his rights. I’m not sure if a paternity was established by blood though, did that happen in 1980?

    My point being, ONLY because SHE provided a name and address. She could have said ANYTHING, and unfortunatly that leaves many adoptees in the dark. Not only adoptees but some non adoptees too.

  2. wesunruh December, 2007 at 1:14 pm

    Thank you for your comment.

    I suspected as much, and have decided to work this into the plot. This seems to be an unacknowledged issue, the rights of the birth father, in that I hardly ever see discussion or debate around this topic, and when I do the birth father seems to have an unspoken social stigma already attached before the details are even considered.

    thanks again.

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