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Illegal International Adoption Case

This is a fascinating case..

After nearly five years of searching, posting fliers, being turned away at orphanages and even staging a hunger strike, Rodriguez now holds what’s believed to be an unprecedented Guatemalan court order declaring the child stolen and ordering the U.S. couple who eventually adopted her to give her back.
If U.S. authorities intervene to return the child, now 6, as the Guatemalan court has asked, it would be a first for any international adoption case, experts say.



should there be some hindsight, perhaps?

After all is said and done, I must admit that–as much as I’m loathe to admit it–Facebook has its perks

walled garden as it may have been once, it’s still entirely too invasive for my liking, and I don’t think my uneasiness with that aspect will ever subside

HOWEVER, that said, I have found it a remarkably useful tool for connecting to a side of my family I never really anticipated contacting…  faithful readers of this rss feed likely know already that I’m an adoptee, that I’ve been hypersensitive to adoption issues that arise in my life personally, and in culture at large.

So, to contextualize this somewhat, I’ve been in contact with my biological mother through Facebook.  As a result, my wife insists I stop complaining about Facebook and accept it as another platform for communication, one with more depth and reach than most other online social spaces… whatever.  I’m ornery enough to stick to my biases even when I know I’m wrong.

hell I still think this whole internet thing is a fad…

what about the birth father?

here’s the situation,

The birth mother, realizing she’s pregnant, leaves her boyfriend
(the birth father) without telling him she’s pregnant

Two days before she gives birth, she contacts him out of the blue
and informs him she’s about to have a child and will be giving the
child up for adoption, then hangs up on him

You can assume she’s lied and told the adoption agency that she
doesn’t know where the father is or who the father might be,
and is unwilling to help them find him, and the only reason she
contacted him was in some sense because she’d felt guilty
about going behind his back.

At what point are his parental rights terminated?

If he could figure out where this adoption was being
finalized, could he stop the process?

Let’s say this happens in Kansas, where there is no putative
father registry – what can he do?

(This is all purely hypothetical, I’m trying to illustrate the gap between
what adoption.com presents as adoption and the circumstances that
lead to adoption in the real world.)

A bit of this, bit of that…

as promised in my last post, Interview with Jessica DelBalzo is up at Alterati:


also, this came in my email, thought I’d share:

Reheat Pizza
Heat up leftover pizza in a nonstick skillet on top of the stove,
set heat to med-low and heat until warm. This keeps the crust
crispy. No soggy micro pizza. I saw this on a talk show, Rachel
Ray and it really works!

Easy Deviled Eggs
Put cooked egg yolks in a zip lock baggie. Seal, mash till they
are all broken up. Add remainder of ingredients, reseal, keep
mashing it up mixing thoroughly, and cut the tip of the baggy,
squeeze mixture into egg. Just throw bag away when done, easy
clean up.

Expanding Frosting
You know how you always seem to nearly run out of frosting when
finishing up a cake? Well, when you buy a container of cake
frosting from the store, whip it with your mixer for a few minutes.
You can double it in size. You get to frost more cake/cupcakes
with the same amount. You also eat less sugar/calories per

Reheating Refrigerated Bread
To warm biscuits pancakes, or muffins that were refrigerated, place
them in a microwave with a cup of water. The increased moisture
will keep the food moist and help it reheat faster.

Newspaper those weeds away!
Start putting in your plants, work the nutrients in your soil. Wet
newspapers put layers around the plants overlapping as you go cover
with mulch and forget about weeds. Weeds will get through some
gardening plastic they will not get thro ugh wet newspapers.

Broken Glass
Use a dry cotton ball to pick up little broken glass pieces of
glass-the fibers catch ones you can’t see!

No More Mosquitoes
Place a dryer sheet in your pocket. It will keep the mosquitoes

Squirrel Away!
To keep squirrels from eating your plants sprinkle your plants with
cayenne pepper. The cayenne pepper doesn’t hurt the plant and the
squirrels won’t come near it.

Flexible Vacuum
To get something out of a heat register or under the fridge add an
empty paper towel roll or empty gift wrap roll to your vacuum. It
can be bent or flattened to get in narrow openings. This also works
to clean way down deep in those dryer vents.

Reducing Static Cling
Pin a small safety pin to the seam of your slip and you will not
have a clingy skirt or dress. Same thing works with slacks that
cling when wearing panty hose. Pla c e pin in seam of slacks and —
voila – static is gone.

Measuring Cups
Before you pour sticky substances into a measuring cup, fill it
with hot water. Dump out the hot water, but don’t dry the cup.
Next, add your ingredient, such as peanut butter, and watch how
easily it comes right out.

Foggy Windshield?
Hate foggy windshields? Buy a chalkboard eraser and keep it in the
glove box of your car. When the windows fog, rub with the eraser!
Works better than a cloth!

Reopening an Envelope!
If you seal an envelope and then realize you forgot to include
something inside, just place your sealed envelope in the freezer
for an hour or two. Voila! It unseals easily.

Use your hair conditioner to shave your legs. It’s a lot cheaper
than shaving cream and leaves your legs really smooth. It’s also a
great way to use up t he conditioner you bought but didn’t like when
you tried it in your hair…

Goodbye Fruit Flies
To get rid of pesky fruit flies, take a small glass fill it 1/2″
with Apple Cider Vinegar and 2 drops of dishwashing liquid, mix
well. You will find those flies drawn to the cup and gone forever!

Get Rid of Ants
Put small piles of cornmeal where you see ants. They eat it, take
it “home,” can’t digest it so it kills them. It may take a week or
so, esp. if it rains, but it works &you don’t have the worry about
pets or small children being harmed.

Lastly, check out Curcio’s wrap-up for this week


I’ve noticed that my name has come up in a conversation one of my old roommates seems to have sparked. Yes I’m a real person, and like all people, I am made up of a confluence of selves, one of the more vocal self being the ‘angry adoptee’ – hence my occasional coverage on alterati of adoptee politics, issues, and themes. As for the ‘collective’ reference, it’s something of a result of pondering endlessly psychic and emotive states, personality in flux, ego, archetypal energy, etc. et. al, but I don’t know that I feel like defending myself.

I’m not playing an arg, but I’ve been writing a non-linear exploded novel for some time now, called Memwar – the timeline was the final post at the (now defunct) information virus this year, as I’ve finished the primary research for the book (or more accurately, books) in January. Currently I’m working on a small portion of the overall paradigm within which Memwar occurs, but Edward and I are just calling it non-fiction. Calling it secular magick wouldn’t be far off the mark, as it’s our intention to provide an academic, albeit subjective, approach to influencing and manipulating probability, and to do so according to intentional goals. That’s not the sort of magic you’re going to find in Thomas Barret’s work but it’s a kind of magic all the same, and after reading Kirk Packwood’s book I’m convinced we’re going to be covering a fairly broader range in terms of blending memetics with magic.

It’s an attempt to craft a grimoire from the post-modernist texts Edward and I have read, along with the weird underlying concept of Masterminding that runs throughout entrepreneur culture, while combining the underlying conceits of memetics and marketing. And to do so in such a way that accurately reflects our expectations and understanding of the paradigm shift engendered by the conscious social network that’s being assembled now. A selection is now publicly available here.

I’ve also finished an interview with Jessica DelBalzo, the author of Unlearning Adoption, and that interview will be going up shortly. Last week there was so much compounded crazy shit going on in the news that I felt like my head was going to explode, so this week I’m writing about a film and some books for alterati. The book Unlearning Adoption was a tremendously solid argument against adoption as it’s currently practiced in our culture. Watching the way in which DelBalzo is educating and spreading these ideas is interesting, because, as she says in the upcoming interview, this really is an outsider perspective.

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